Its been a while....

Hello Everyone,

It has been a while since I have been on.  Life has been busy for me but I have been loving it.  My nephew was born and I have been spending every second with him that I can.

Which brings me to my first point.  The birth of your first child, niece, nephew, cousin, etc.... is so exciting, fun and new. All you want is to just hold the baby and watch them sleep. You want them to like you the most out of your family and you want to spoil them to no end.  But this is not always the best idea.

Now don't get me wrong. I plan on spoiling my nephew the same way I plan on spoiling my own children. If they work hard for what they want then I will run out in a heart beat to get it for them. But now a days I see to many parents spoiling their children no matter what the child does. These children now a days are running amok. The child is in the store screaming for a toy and just to shut them up they buy it. Parent don't want to discipline their children. They want the teachers in the schools to do it, while the teacher is also trying to teach a classroom full and now overflowing of children. Strange enough I have even seen parent call the police to say they are scared of their 8 year old son or daughter because the child hits them. The police are not there for disciplining your child. They have more important things to do like get criminals.  If you don't discipline your child at a young age please believe they might turn into one of those criminals when they grow up.

Imagine being a teacher with very little pay, waking up 5 in the morning getting ready for work. reaching to the school by 7am to receive the children getting off the bus or being dropped off by the parents, Then teaching 30 children (all on different learning levels), while also trying to disciple all the children (also on different behavioral levels) and trying to reach the states educational goal. But that is not all, they also have lives of their own, caring for their own children, husband, house, bills, extended family, plus also grading papers for the children after hours at home because there is not enough time to do it at work.

Parents need to start standing up to the plate and disciplining their children. It is not hard and there is time to do it. While you are cooking dinner and your children are normally watching TV, playing on their game station, playing with toys; that is the perfect time sit your children down with a book, have them help you in the kitchen, set the dinner table, talk to you about their day. It should not be parents pick the child up from school, try to keep them busy until dinner, feed them and then send them off to bed.

What time are you spending with your children? Do they know when you say to do something to do it the first time? Do your children throw fits in the store because they want something? Do you give in? When their teachers call you because they need help with building your child up to be a great standing citizen, do you talk to your child and work with them or do you scream at the teacher saying it is their fault?

My parents always told me that if I complained about my teachers then their is something I am not doing as a student. (Now I do understand there is bad teachers out there but as a parent are you going to the school or checking with the teacher to see what is going on?)

To wrap this all up all I wanted to say is raise your children for not just you but for others. (Meaning- raise your child to be independent and to treat others as they would like to be treated) Because when they grow up and your child is out of control and harassing other people it will all come back to you as a parent.

Have a great day and if you would like to chime in on this conversation please do. Join your friends. I would love to reach people who just need advice that maybe they never got or people who need to open their eyes to a new way to approach working with their children. 

Falling apart....

What do you do when you start to see most of the relationships around you falling apart?

 Now I don't mean the ones you are in but the ones of your friends and family.  You see how their relationship is spiraling out of control and you feel powerless to help. You want to run over and help them mend back together what you thought was a great relationship. You see them crying and you want to hug them and tell them that everything is alright.

Recently I have been seeing this going on around me. Relationships breaking apart, people hurting each other out of spite and women hurting from the evil done to them. For a good while I have felt down for the whole fact that there is almost nothing I can do to help.

I have learned this many years ago...

There is something you can do. Be there for the person that is hurting, give them encouraging words, compliments, watch a movie together, play board games, send them a quick text, ask them how they are doing...etc.
I have been praying a lot and asking God to help me to forgive the people that have hurt the people closest to me.  I know God will take care of it and I do not have to worry because when someone (even you) is going through a hard time, all it means is that you have some amazing blessings coming your way. Just hold on tight and look to your better day that are coming ahead. 

Mistakes...

Now I know a lot of us has done a the right thing in life and listened to just about everything that our parents told us, But on the other hand there is quite a bit of us that has gone off on our own journeys to live a live of adventure.

This post is to those that decided to venture off and figure out the world...

I was grown up in a very tight nit family. We did everything together. My parents did everything in their power to protect my sibling and I from danger and bad influences. But out of my siblings I was the one that wanted to venture out on my own and figure out the world.
I have been through some crazy ups and downs, disappointing my parents, hurt friends, getting my own feeling hurt, you name it.
My parents where sad to see me make some of the decisions that I made but what they did not relies is that their prayer and God alone had his hand over me, protecting me, and the lessons that I was learning was for my future.

I can now say that out of all the good and bad decisions I made in my life that I was able to share my life experiences with others. It was so much easier to relate to others and then give them advice on what mistakes I made and how to avoid these things in their own lives.

Life is such a crazy journey...can you relate?

What are you worth?

-Something I read and had to share with others...


An incident transpired when Muhammad Ali's daughters arrived at his home wearing closes that were quite revealing. Here is the story as told by one of his daughters:

"When we finally arrived, the chauffeur escorted my younger sister, Laila, and I up to my father's suite. As usual, he was hiding behind the door waiting to scare us. We exchanged many hugs and kisses as we could possibly give in one day.

My father took a good look at us. Then he sat me down on his lap and said something that I will never forget. He looked me straight in the eyes and said, "Hana, everything that God made valuable in the world is covered and hard to get to.
Where do you find diamonds? Deep down in the ground, covered and protected.
Where do you find pearls? Deep down at the bottom of the ocean, covered up and protected in a beautiful shell.
Where do you find gold? Way down in the mine, covered over with layers and layers of rock. You've got to work hard to get to them."

He looked at me with serious eyes. "Your body is sacred. You're far more precious than diamonds and pears, and you should be covered too."





-Don't forget my friend that you to are worth more that Diamonds and Gold. You are precious and worth someone loving and treating you as such! :)



(Dedicated to my Mother that use to tell me all the time that I am worth more that Diamonds and Gold!!! Happy Birthday Mom...)

How are you?

Good morning all of my beautiful people (and I do mean each and every one of you).

I have a quick snip-it to share with you.  Do you remember a time when you went through something so bad or even traumatizing? Did any one try to warn you first? Did you ever try to warn someone else to not do something because you know the pain and hurt you went through?

To those that are being warned not to do something, Please listen and take heed. They are only looking out for your safety and they do not want you to go through the pain and hurt that they experienced.

You are special, someone cares enough to tell you because they care!

Have a great day and Keep your chin up!!! :)

Prom 2

There is always consequences for your actions.

So it is prom night and you are super excited and getting ready for a night of fun. You remember a few of your friend invited you over to their house for a party that will have alcohol and most likely drugs. You try to push it out of your mind but you know a lot of the cool kids are going to be there.

What do you do?

Best thing to do is go to the dance and have fun. After the prom is over go to the designated after prom party provided by your school or go out to eat with your friends or you can have a bunch of your friends meet up at your house and have a sleep over. This helps in so many ways without you even realizing it. First it puts your parents mind at ease, second it keeps you off of the streets with people who are drinking and driving, third you will save so much money and still get to have a ton of fun and great memories to hold on to with your friends.

Now lets say you choose to go to the party with all of the cool kids. Lets look at all the bad things that happen from this. You get drunk and get alcohol poisoning, now your friends are going to have to drive you to the hospital. Or they can all be to scared to say anything because they don't want to get in trouble and they leave you at the party because they think you will be ok... later you go into a coma and die.  But wait that is not the only thing. Lets say you get drunk and you throw up on your self and you pass out. Would your friends give you mouth to mouth with throw up in your mouth if you where gagging and suffocating on your own vomit? I promise you the friends you think that are your friends are truly not when it comes to having to put their life on the line for you. You could get drunk and even pass out and you get raped because you are passed out. You could also do a drug at the party you have never tried before and over dose.  But lets not stop there because there is more. You decide I am going to go to a hotel with my boyfriend and have sex for the first time. Most girls end up pregnant on their prom night. Now you have to give up a life of journey and freedom because you have to take care of another living being. What if the dad does not want to stay with you? It happens all the time. He leaves you alone and goes on with his life and you are stuck working your butt off just to buy the baby milk.

All I am saying is think before you act. There is always consequences for your actions. Now this has not happened to everyone that went to a party after prom but think of how many people say "that wont happen to me" and then it happens to them.

To all of my seniors there PLEASE be careful on your prom night, think twice, and BE SAFE!!!!

Prom....

Prom...

The most exciting time of the year for seniors.  The girls are running around looking for the perfect dress and the amazing shoes to match. They have to find the most sparely jewelery, get their hair done, and also their nails. The boys are also running around trying to find a shirt to match their dates dress and making sure they have enough money to pay for the tickets, the dinner, and anything else to complete their look for the night.

The day of the dance is full of electric air and everyone is excited to get all dressed up. Friends are making plans to spit a limbo or ride together or even spend the night at someones house after the night is through.

But in the side lines there are friends who are planning trips, parties, hotels, and more.  All SUPER bad ideas!!!  Most of these ideas include Alcohol and drugs.

When prom comes around and it is time to graduate, that is a time you are preparing to live your life.  It is true freedom. You get to go to college, pick and choose what time to go and what days to attend, if you don't like a teacher you can drop them and get another one, you get a job or already have one, you can also get a chance to move up and become someone amazing.  The list goes on and on, the list is endless of all the fun you can have amazing journeys you can live out.

Going back to the bad ideas, this is where a lot of seniors life of adventure ENDS! 

To be continued......